You are right, females can get crazy when it comes to their male idols. It actually gets really scary sometimes. I just ignore it although sometimes I get dirty looks at concerts, lol (I'm not Japanese/Asian so I stand out). There are nice people though; I've made some friends at K8 concerts
I think K8's fans tend to be pretty observant so it does show if they're not getting along or not. They tend to be professional (Hina is the KING of professional, he really is) and such but sometimes you can just see it. Luckily they always work things out.
You really can't fake their sort of closeness, you can see with some other groups *coughs* that it is obviously faked or they just aren't as close. I prefer male groups because I find that males in general tend to be more honest and straight forward and they don't usually pull that back stabbing crap. Sometimes with female groups, I wonder how close they really can be since females tend to be petty, malicious and vindictive. On some TV show, the host was asking a few AKB48 members if they all got along and they said, "yes, of course!" but it didn't sound very convincing
I think whitedove and I have pretty similar tastes, I like B'z, Mr.Children, GReeeeN (well, I don't know if she likes them), singer songwriters (miwa, Mao Abe, Mai Fukui, etc) and my all time favorite pop singer Namie Amuro (I also got into Jpop through her!). Yes, I live in Japan. It's not that wonderful though, haha. I've lived here for so many years that I've gotten used to a lot of it but sometimes I do consider just packing up and leaving. If you really want to come here, you will! I was always told by everyone (my friends, my family, etc) that I would never get here but here I am!!! Just work at it and things will work out
Where in CT do you live? I was born and raised in Fairfield County (and lived there until I turned 15).